Bad judgments

Tonight I went out with some friends who appeared to need a little prompting to improve their social standings. In each case, a male friend offered some intrigue to a lady in the establishment where we imbibed. In each case, I offered suggestions to help.

Case 1: Gentleman who broke up with his long-time girlfriend. Advice: If you're ready, get back on that horse. Talk to that girl who intrigues you. Ignored the advice the first time. Later changed his goal to a different young lady, who happily talked to him for nearly half an hour. Conversation later ended with this woman hanging on another guy. Declared a failure.

Case 2: Gentleman who showed some interest in a female anchor(ette?) of a local TV station. Gentleman spoke with her earlier in the evening, and she seemed engaged. Encouraged the gentleman to be mroe aggressive in his pursuit. Later ended with him asking her out, to hear "no." Declared a failure.

Case 3: Gentleman who showed some interest in a woman within our group. Gentleman truly missed his opportunity several months ago. Encouraged the gentleman to pursue this option in particular, in part because of indirect ramifications from Case 1. He did speak with her, but he didn't offer a full-go effort. Declared a draw.

So tonight, I feel somewhat responsible for three friends feeling worse than they had to, in part because they went after things. What's odd about this is I often try to convince myself I should pursue possibilities that a nagging voice in my head says might be unattainable.

Nagging voice in my head: 3. David: 0.